A lot of ‘life’ has happened in my life! What I mean by this is that I’ve had a lot of challenges to overcome: sorrow to work my way through, crises to survive, mountains to climb (both metaphorical & literal) and holes to get myself out of.
I lived most of my life feeling very alone inside. I had lots of friends, but I never really opened up to anyone about my experiences or how I was feeling. Talking about things I had gone through and how I really felt deep down, allowing the hurt and pain to come to the surface, was far too scary a prospect, so I didn't go there.
The result was I always felt false; like I couldn't really ever be myself. It felt as though I was stuck playing a part in a real-life soap-opera. I felt that in order to fit in with those around me I had to keep playing along with my role in this fictional life. Keeping your true thoughts and feelings locked away so no-one else knows they exist takes a lot of effort, and is very draining. I had panic attacks, felt stressed and alone, but I knew I had to keep going.
Then one day, I woke up with the usual thought in my head "I'm not happy and I don't want to live like this", but this day was different, because I decided that I was going to do something about it, and I did. I began exploring who I really am, understanding and accepting my flaws, and realising that I am SO much more than I had ever realised.
I began challenging the beliefs I had about myself and how I see the world. As I became more and more at peace with my own self, I extended my growth into new areas, studying Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Mindfulness and most recently Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT).
Something really clicked with me when I started studying ACT and using the tools and techniques. I now use it every day both myself and in sessions with my Clients. By using ACT tools and techniques, I keep myself heading towards being the person I want to be, for myself and others, and living the life I want to live.
Since becoming a Therapist and Coach, I have been helping others who find themselves in a deep dark hole that they don't believe even has a way out, let alone being able to see it. Having been there before, I know how that feels. I jump down into that dark hole with my Clients and we work out how to get up to the light together. We become a strong and powerful team. To find out what others say about working with me, click here.
My first thoughts each day are now gratitude for the gift of another new day and the opportunities it will bring. I now live a rich, full and meaningful life and my passion is helping others to do the same.
If you feel stuck in a hole or your life is clouded by unwelcome thoughts and feelings, drop me a message using the form below and let's have a chat. I'm here to help; you just need to take the first step and make contact. From then on, we're a team!
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