ACT Therapist & Founder
"My life has been a long and winding road with a variety of bumps and junctions, including losing my parents at a young age, suffering overwhelming anxiety and stress, experiencing domestic abuse and always feeling somewhere between completely lost and acting a part in a real-life soap opera. I know what it feels like to wake up day after day, year after year, wishing my life was different and not knowing how to change it.
When I discovered coaching my life changed beyond recognition. I hired a Coach and began to work out who I am and why I’m here on this wonderful planet. I found the passion, direction and purpose that I’d been looking for all my life.
Having experienced the difference that having a Life Coach can make, I decided to train to be one myself. As I started to work helping others, I discovered that it brought me a wonderful fulfilment that I had never experienced before. I developed my learning further and studied Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT). I found that applying the principles of ACT to myself took me to another even higher level of peace and enjoyment in my own experience of life. I wanted to extend this into my work helping others, so trained as an ACT Therapist.
Life & Addiction Coach
"Having spent 30 years struggling with alcohol addiction, eating disorders, severe depression and anxiety, getting divorced, being left with no confidence, self-worth or self-esteem, life has had its ups and downs.
In 2016 I embarked on an incredible journey of sobriety. I realised that putting down the bottle was one thing, however, the hard work comes in the growth; consequently, I discovered coaching.
Because of my past experiences, I’m passionate about helping people whose lives are impacted and influenced by the lasting effects of domestic abuse. Although people can start afresh outwardly, with a new home, job etc, they can continue to carry the effects of the abuse inwardly for years, potentially the rest of their lives, which can hugely impact their enjoyment of living.
After working closely with domestic abuse charities in my local area for a few years, I was honoured to be asked to become a Trustee of one, Dawn’s New Horizon, based in the Sprowston area of Norwich. Through my work with these charities and in my private practice, I have helped many people to transform their lives from merely surviving day to day, to thriving and really enjoying the opportunities that their new life chapter brings them.
The next step for me was to expand Pause Reflect Grow so we could reach even more people, by creating a team of skilled helpers with a range of knowledge and experience that would complement my own. By having other Coaches on the team with different backgrounds, training and knowledge, it enables us to offer a wider range of products and services and therefore help people in even more ways.
My vision for the Pause Reflect Grow team is to help you transform your life from merely surviving day to day, to thriving and reaching your full potential. We will help you move on from ‘fire-fighting’ your way through life, to growing, flourishing and thriving. With us you will find a safe and supportive space to grow into who you truly are deep in your heart; where you will practice using new tools to help you create the lasting change you want; you'll work out who you really are, how you want to show up every day and what you want to get from your wonderful one-time gift called life."
Annette lives with her partner in a tranquil corner of rural Norfolk, along with their small and rather naughty terrier Henry and chickens Posh, Baby, Ginger, Sporty, Cinnamon and Nutmeg.
After spending most of my life running away from myself and life, trying to numb my feelings, giving my all to a relationship that is no longer there, I felt lost, and I didn't know who I was or where I was going or why I was put on the planet. I then discovered coaching.
After being coached myself, I learned that you can thrive on the other side of addiction. You can have incredible self-confidence. Self-worth and self-esteem do not have to be through the floor. Depression can be placed in the background and I can make room for anxiety.
Discovering my life's values has given me the courage to relinquish my accounting career to have a more fulfilling and rewarding life helping others. I do this through coaching primarily based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Real change takes time, commitment and courage, especially when juggling a hectic lifestyle with a career and a family. With the belief in yourself (no matter how small) and the support from those who have been there before you, it's possible to live the life you dream of and deserve."
Susie lives near Aberdeen with her husband and is mum to two beautiful greyhounds.